Omgaan met rouw – de 8 stappen van Julia Samuels (grief counsellor)

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Omgaan met rouw.

Hoe lastig het ook kan zijn. Het is noodzakelijk als je verder wil. Omgaan met rouw is hard werken.

Een mooi artikel met praktische stappen om verder te gaan na verlies en rouw. De stappen die Julia Samuels (bekende grief counsellor uit de UK) gebruikt in haar werk. Lees het gehele artikel

De 8 stappen die ze noemt vermeld ik hieronder (in het Engels).

8 simple steps to help deal with grief | By Julia Samuel

1. Ask yourself, what was your relationship with the person who died? The biggest indicator of how much pain we are in is the quality of the relationship and how much we loved the person who died. The more important they were in your life, the more you loved them, the more you will miss them.

2. Now ask yourself, what is your relationship with yourself? As your relationship with the world and others is changed by grief, so does your relationship with yourself change. You need to show compassion for yourself, to listen to your own needs, to be kind and not to attack or criticise yourself constantly.

3. Find a way to express your grief Find the means of expressing your sorrow that works for you personally. There is no right way; the key is to connect to the feelings you have inside.

4. Make sure you give yourself time It is important to understand that grieving takes longer than anyone wants or expects; you cannot fight it.Allow more time than is often expected to make decisions.

5. Remember to nurture your mind and body Your whole being is impacted by the death of a person you love. Every thought that you have has a physiological component that is felt in your body, and there are reciprocal bodily sensations that can trigger thoughts.

6. Know your limits When you experience a life-changing loss, it is likely to affect your capacity at work and socially. It is important to recognise the power to say no. If you are able to give a proper no, then your yes becomes infinitely more positive.

7. Seek structure In the chaos of grief, you can feel tilted off your axis. Putting one or two things in your day, regularly, that you know you can reliably do, for example exercise, helps you feel like you have some control.

8. Learn to focus ‘Focusing’ is a practice, developed by the psychotherapist and philosopher Eugene Gendlin, that can let you ‘pause the ongoing situation and find new possibilities for carrying forward’. Grief is held in the body, often in an inchoate way. Closing your eyes and breathing into your body, then focusing on the images that emerge, can be a form of release, helping to induce a sense of calm.

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